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#NLP’ers: never forget the ecological check!

I was getting all excited in these past days due to knowing of a person who had some serious anxiety attacks and traumas that prevented him from even leaving the house.

“Finally” – I thought – “some *real* therapeutic treatment opportunity”. The truth is that I’m getting quite bored with the spider/flying/insert_something_else_here phobias. Too easy and not fun anymore.

It’s been a while since my last use of NLP techniques for this kind of treatments so I had to take the rust off and refresh my memory of a few things.

I was almost forgetting one very important – although mostly undervalued – requirement for applying a treatment: the ecological check.

The purpose of the ecological check is to make sure that the treatment will bring the person to a state that is desirable, or rather, a state that will bring more benefits than the ones the person has in its current state.

The problem, or difficulty, in doing a good ecological check, is that the person itself is, most of the time, not aware of the unconscious reasons its mind is working with. I’ve read of cases where these reasons were only discovered recurring to hypnosis, after several treatments failed, with no explanation. It is, therefore, very important to make an extensive analysis of the “ecology” of that person mind, before attempting to change it.

In this particular case I was going to work with, the person manifested a keen interest in getting cured of this extreme condition as it was deteriorating his quality of life, relationships, health etc. He was also under regular psychological treatment for some time, but with no results. He was also very happy when he understood that I could help him overcome this. Apparently, everything that we need is there.

Well, not quite. After some more “ecological checks” it started to become obvious to me that this person has an external desire to overcome the problem, but internally he gets quite a lot of … satisfaction(?) from being in this condition. It’s actually somewhat common for some people to keep perpetuating bad conditions, so that they can complain, play the role of victim and with that, draw other people’s attention and energy to themselves, thus, feeling good.

In this particular cases, it doesn’t really matter what the external desire is, because deep inside, they believe they need that problem to keep getting good feelings. With this, treatment becomes a waste of time. Unless, of course, that belief is changed in the first place.

So, as I didn’t feel the will to change those beliefs, I cancelled the treatment as to preserve my 100% success rate so far ;) ….and I’m still waiting for another one that poses a real hard challenge ;)


my first big NLP challenge

(this one goes in English to reach a wider audience. those who are researching/studying/practicing NLP can find more info after the break)

So last week I went to face my first big NLP challenge. Scenario: a 68 year-old man who has been visiting psychiatrists for the past 4 years, under medication for hallucinations and bipolar disease. His wife called me and explained that he does barely talk, doesn’t maintain conversations, doesn’t go out of the house for months (except for going to the hospital), doesn’t smile for ages, etc… you get the picture.

This was simultaneously scary and exciting ;) Never had a chance to deal with a person like that, much less to try and make him change his condition. Anyway, since I am committed to develop my skills in this practice, I told I would pay them a visit. As he was under heavy medication for his behaviours and hallucinations I feared that I might find him very sedated and that would ruin the change work. So I instructed his wife to reduce by half the medicine intake on the day before my visit, and to remove it completely on the day itself.

yes, magic has a structure! ;-)

Unfortunately, she was too afraid to do that and only reduced a little bit on the day I went there. Because of that he was still too drugged and speaking and moving slowly. This got me a bit upset as now I could not have access to the part of him where all those problems manifest. Anyway, after 2 hours, his wife was amazed when I asked her “can you bring us his wheelchair? we want to go for a walk outside”, she could not believe that he actually agreed to go outside the house. He actually got to smile and laugh a few times, something he didn’t do for many months (so they say…)

Before I left I told her again to reduce the medicine (very gradually) and see what the effect would be like. And if he displayed negative signs she could call me again for a second session.
This week I finally got feedback! She was very very happy, in her own words, her husband is a very different person since I was there, he is talking, smiling and even wants to go outside everyday! She asked him what I did to him but he can only say “nothing, we just talked… and one time he told me to close my eyes…” hehe magic in action ;)

Lets see how the situation develops from here on! :)

for those interested, here is some NLP related stuff: Continue reading my first big NLP challenge

-1 wish :)

(sorry, this one goes in english because I know it will be written faster ;) )

P(re)S – not been updating the blog much, but I decided I to write only when I have something interesting to say, and not just to fit some sort of posting schedules.

Richard Bandler with some of our portuguese participants

I can now cross one more item of my wish-list. Took this great opportunity to travel to London in the beginning of the month to do a one-week intensive Licensed Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming course. What got me really motivated to go was the fact that the 3 trainers were some of the best in the world, including one of the NLP co-founders, Richard Bandler himself – which is definitely someone worth meeting for his peculiar ways of talking, teaching, treating, and just being mysterious ;)

One week passed in a flash. We were about 300 people, 3 trainers and about 15 assistants. People from all over the world, including countries like India and Venezuela!! So happy to find quite a few Portuguese folks there too :) The flow was great, the course materials were very interesting and we had a lot of practice together with the theory. Best of all, the teaching methodology followed by Richard Bandler and his team is: have LOADS of fun.

This course is just the first step, were we learn the most fundamental aspects of NLP practice like: accessing and maintaining emotional states, banishing fears and phobias, non-verbal communication, timelines, motivation, language patterns, reframing problems, changing limiting beliefs and behaviors, and some basic hypnotic inductions. All in all, we learn about looking at life with different eyes :)

Now back home, it’s up to us to keep up the study and most important, the practice! No need for private clients, therapies or counseling, the whole world is a practice playground! The supermarket is place where we can try many things :P The way I see it, there is no start or stoping NLP practice, if you are aware of it, you just do it all the time.

That said, some things still need specific people and conditions to be practiced, like removing phobias or treating depressions. I’m gonna get into that soon!

Banishing Phobias (click to zoom)

Hopefully, I will feel ready so that in one year’s time I can go back to do the Master Practitioner’s course :)